Midlife Crisis

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Jimmie Morris, MA, LPC Counseling for Individuals, Couples, & Families www.JimmieMorris.com

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Midlife Crisis - A Look Inside at What Matters! Life Coach NYC

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Donna Deming, founder of BreakThroughLifeCoaching.net talks about slowing down to re-exam your values. Connecting your inner world with your outer life. Visit www.Breakthroughlifecoaching.net to find out how you can benefit from life coaching. Women benefit greatly by working with a life coach in midlife.

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Coach Linzi - Empowering Women in Midlife Transition

Coach Linzi - Empowering Women in Midlife Transition Tube. Duration : 3.72 Mins.

Coach Linzi is a Certified Professional Coach who empowers women in midlife transition. If you are a woman in midlife going through a challenging time and in need of support then you've come to the right place. Hang in there, support is just a click away - www.coachlinzi.com DEEP Lyrics and melody by Linzi Walker Music by Linzi Walker and Gerhard Loos Production, recording, mixing and all instruments by Gerhard Loos Filmed by Gerhard Loos Video arrangement by Linzi Walker and Gerhard Loos

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Career Assessments and Coaches - A Powerful Combination For a Midlife Career Transition

Assessment is essential. Gathering solid, dependable data about your midlife career client is the most efficient road to career coaching success. Midlife is said to commence when one ceases to measure one's life in terms of time that has elapsed since birth, and gradually switches to a more interior evaluation of how much time is left. This gigantic shift generally occurs somewhere in one's 40s (the actual advent of midlife is naturally influenced by many factors). Midlife can send psychological 'shock waves' through the client; some clients enter what we blithely call 'mid-career crisis' a frightening period of uncertainty.

Midlife is said to end when one commences retirement (although this maker is also open to contest as well). In any event, midlife opens with a flush of self-life confusion, evidenced by an avalanche of the "big" questions of life: "Where am I going?" How have I done so far in my life?" "Is my life on track?" "Is this what I genuinely want from life?" "Am I in an authentic career for me?" These, and other questions swirl in an almost unending vortex in the hearts and minds of the midlife career seeker.

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The midlife career client presents to the career coach carrying all this internal confusion that screams for clarification and reason, direction and priority, as well as organization and the need to "make meaning" of it all. What's a good career coach to do?

Career Assessments and Coaches - A Powerful Combination For a Midlife Career Transition

The Need for Good Career Assessment

There exists compelling evidence that assessments produce better insights, better decisions, and better outcomes for both career clients and career coaches. Everyday, we career coaches help our clients make life-changing decisions; decisions that we hope will lead to positive outcomes. Quality assessments can immeasurably help support our coaching evaluations and shape the direction of our coaching efforts. The overall benefits of career assessments are no more compelling than in coaching the midlife career client.

Quality assessments, ones that are valid, reliable, cost effective, efficient of time, and where training in their use is readily available, are indispensable for the midlife career client. Assessments have immense benefits because they can produce dramatic results.

Benefits of Assessment

o Allows clients to understand themselves better
o Promotes a more 'scientific' coaching orientation
o Lends clarity to confusion
o Provides hard data evidence
o Enhances deeper self-exploration
o Promotes quality outcomes
o Offers data to help make accurate and more reliable decisions
o Identifies personal strengths
o Enhances client motivation
o Activates time efficiency
o Jumpstarts changing client deficit behaviors
o Gives structure and order without stricture
o Increases coach confidence

Career Assessment: Development Across the Lifespan

The primary goal of career assessments is not to discover deficits, rather it's to identify internal strengths, to deepen the conversation between you and your client, and to help you formulate more powerful questions that can not only motivate your clients but even inspire them. Career assessments motivate your clients in the most personal, practical, and relevant ways possible, to advance their ongoing career/life search across the lifespan.

Quality career assessments have helped literally thousands of individuals grow toward a much clearer understanding of the meaning and purpose of their life. The results give you clear directions for continued growth toward appreciating your client's authentic 'work.' Quality assessments give you added relevance to your coaching profession when they are coupled with educational experiences designed to further personalize and extend the learning that occurred with the assessment itself.

The results of quality assessments give you the coach invaluable information about your client; information you could gain nowhere else. Quality assessments generate a personal report that allows you to dramatically advance on your path toward helping your midlife career clients in ways unavailable to you without them. The information given in assessments enables you to move forward in your work with vastly increased confidence and motivation.

Career Assessments and Coaches - A Powerful Combination For a Midlife Career Transition

Midlife Transition - 5 Things You Can Do to Avoid a Crisis

If you are in midlife and are afraid of having a  crisis -- or are beginning to be afraid that you might -- what can you do?  There are many potential solutions.

 Seek professional coaching or counseling

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Sometimes all we need to get through what looks like a 'crisis' in our lives, is have someone deeply listen to us.  Skilled therapists and often a great life coach - especially one with a spiritual approach, can be there for you in a way that you can hear your own answers. Therapy no longer has the stigma it once did and it doesn't have to last forever. In fact, if your therapist seems to be 'keeping you' in therapy, MOVE ON.  Unless you have had serious trauma in your childhood, you can be helped just by knowing someone else out there is witnessing your life.

Midlife Transition - 5 Things You Can Do to Avoid a Crisis

Notice your reactions and see if you are over-reacting

Just taking the time to notice and acknowledge that you are reacting can be enough to change the course of your life.  There is a difference between reaction and response.  If you find yourself flying off the handle, or drinking excessively, or spending more money than you have or getting into drugs or sexual addictions, you may be running from something in your life rather than facing it.  Midlife is an opportunity to really come to terms with your life and if you are avoiding the deeper questions, you are headed for trouble.  Even a good friend can often be a great sounding board to explore your new feelings.

Approach midlife thoughtfully.

Look back to where you've been. Have you gotten through touch times before?  I bet you have. We all have. Don't discount the value of your maturity and experience. You are most likely better equipped than ever to cope effectively with life's difficulties.

 Reassess your goals and dreams.

Are some of those dreams actually a hold over from your teen years? If you haven't been practicing for sometime already, you are probably not going to make the Olympics at the age of 35. Go and root for someone who can. And, be sure to look for some things that you CAN do now.  It's not too late to take up a musical instrument, for example, or to go back to school to get a degree. I'm not one for telling people to be realistic, because I believe we are capable of far more than we ever imagine, but it's important to 'know when to hold them, know when to fold them.'  This is a sign of maturity in itself.

 Find freedom in aging.

When you learn to be accepting of mortality, (really IMMORTALITY!), you'll start to truly enjoy the aging process. It's not over until it is over.  So, stop acting as if life has ended.  Maybe some of the things you used to do are not part of your life any more, but, I guarantee that if you put your mind and heart into it, you'll find things to be and do that you never could before. While science has come up with ways we can live healthier, longer, no one has found the  fountain of youth, Make today count. You can think of midlife as an end or as a beginning.  It startled me to realize that I still potentially have one third of a life to still live.  If I look back to the first 30 years of my life, for example, I hardly recognize or remember myself.  There's a whole new world out there and I'm excited about the possibilities that are open to me. Are you?

Midlife Transition - 5 Things You Can Do to Avoid a Crisis

Midlife Transition - A Spiritual Experience

Many of us have probably heard the quote that Wayne Dyer made popular. It was actually said by the Catholic priest/theologian Teilhard de Chardin:

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience"

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What I believe

Midlife Transition - A Spiritual Experience

This may sound shocking - but I don't agree. I propose that we are spiritual beings having a spiritual experience. In fact, I believe that EVERYTHING is consciousness. Our scientists are telling us today that this is true. That what we see is our own projection. There are many books being written on this today.

So, I have come to see that, in particular, the midlife transition is a spiritual event. And if we haven't already started pondering the big questions, we begin to experience what has been traditionally called "midlife Crisis". It's really our spirits calling out and saying to us - Go deeper; Find out who you REALLY are. It's time to wake up to the Truth of your being.

Have you heard the call?

Have you had a spiritual 'wake-up call' lately? Maybe you have had an illness or have come through an addiction? Or maybe you've heard of a number of people your own age who are dying? Is it making you think about your own life? Or maybe you have continually ponder the meaning of life:

Who am I?

Why am I here?

What's my purpose?

Is there really a God?

If so, who or what is it?

It's as though your soul is telling you there is so much more to life than you have experienced so far. If so, you are not alone. Most people ponder the 'big life questions' when they come to their middle years. There have been studies that show that this is even more prevalent in men than in women. Perhaps because women are more openly spiritual from an earlier age. Depending on what you do when these questions come up, the second half of your life can truly exciting, fulfilling and deeply peaceful. You can truly learn that 'all is well' and that life is so much more than what you experience. Or, you can choose the 'crisis' of meaning which is accompanied by boredom and depression.

Finding a Spiritual Solution

Wayne Dyer wrote a book called, "There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem". I recommend that book - and I especially recommend that you ponder what that means for your own life. I'm not talking about religion, here. Although those who are deeply involved in their own religion, often come to spiritual awakening in midlife as well. Find companions on the journey. Find a mentor or coach. Spend more time going within. This time is so precious and can be an opening to the best years yet.

Midlife Transition - A Spiritual Experience

Midlife Crisis, Change and Transition Are Not the Same

Articles and blog posts about midlife crisis and midlife crisis symptoms flood the Internet landscape. Studies show that fewer than 10% of the people in the United States had experienced psychological crises due to their age or aging, documented in a 1999 large scale research study. Male and female crises are not common, despite the media hype surrounding the use of these terms.

I prefer to use the term midlife transition, which is empowering, whereas the term midlife crisis is dis-empowering. I know the subject of transition well because I have experienced it many times, as most mid lifers have. It is, however, important to realize that both a crisis and a transition include change.

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Crisis, change, and transition

Midlife Crisis, Change and Transition Are Not the Same

Crisis is an unstable situation of extreme danger or difficulty (online dictionary).

Change refers to an event which occurs when something in our life ends or is replaced by another event or way of doing something. Change is external; situational, like job loss or a divorce. It's episodic and happens to you.

Transition is a gradual psychological re-orientation we experience as we try to adapt to change. It's internal; it happens inside us.

A Different View

Dr. Fred Horowitz, a specialist in midlife development, asserts that midlife crisis is a "cultural story that is made up."

William Bridges, an expert in transitions, says that the more accurate term to use when describing the process that ALL mid lifers go through is transition, not crisis.

His research shows that there are three phases to transition:
1. Ending, losing, letting go - you let go of old patterns and ways of being. This is a phase where you deal with loss.
2. The Neutral Zone - the old is gone and the new way isn't fully integrated. It's like the "gap" that a trapeze artist experiences when they let go of one trapeze and haven't yet grasped the next one.
3. The New Beginning - you come out of the in-between time or the "gap" I refer to above. You are in a place where you can recreate yourself and create a new future for yourself.

Being in the Gap

It is well known that the Chinese character for crisis also represents opportunity. That is how the many transitions in my life have occurred to me. A case in point was my divorce. Although it was a major transition in my life, I never viewed it as a crisis.

I went through other "major" transitions in life. For example, I felt in the "gap," referred to above, after I completed my doctorate in 1995 at 48 years of age. I experienced a certain fear and anxiety about what to do next. I was now faced with a "blank canvas." What the heck was I going to do now?

How to Deal with Midlife Transitions

1. Allow yourself to "be" - to be in the space of not knowing, yet trusting that things will unfold and will turnout. Things always workout, no matter what drama we add to our lives.

2. Complete unfinished business of the past - take care of things left undone or unsaid; let go of resentments, regrets and remorse.

3. Practice the art of "being" - exercise, being in nature, meditation, breathing, yoga offer simple, yet practical ways of being. Find something that works for you.

4. Seek help from a professional like a coach, counselor, therapist.

5. Join a support group.

Midlife Crisis, Change and Transition Are Not the Same