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Are you wondering what is going on? Are things going crazy and you are losing control of your life? You could be going through a spiritual transition. Here are 5 signs. Get excited good things are on their way.
The Old way is not working no more
Have you lost your footing? What you always have done does not seem to work anymore and you have lost your desire to do it that way anymore. Is your ministry slipping away and you are out of control. You are doing the same things you always have and you are getting no results? These are all signs that God is going to do a new thing.
You are tired and just want to rest with God
As things don't work the way the normally do you realize that you are really worn out and tired and you just want to rest in the Lord and get your Bible out and rest with the Lord and do some time together.
You are praying more
Suddenly you have this fresh zeal to pray and tap into the Lord and it is not and effort and it is fresh and new and exciting and God is speaking back to you and telling you that a new thing is around the corner.
There is massive spiritual attack present
It is though the enemy is aware that you have a new way and a new break through coming and he has launched an all out attack to make you give up. This attack out of the normal just tells you that you are going the right way though.
Your sleeping is disrupted and you find yourself waking in the middle of the night to pray
If it is happening like you in those four ways above you will find that God is waking you up in the middle of the night to spend time with you. There is no use resisting as you cannot get back to sleep anyway until you have done what the Lord wants you to do.
5 Signs That You Are Going Through a Spiritual Transition to a Higher CallingThe Dallas Cowboys are obviously one of the most popular franchises in the National Football League for a reason. The team established a tradition of winning under legendary head coach Tom Landry and that tradition survived the transition to Jimmy Johnson during the early 1990s. Through the years not only have the Cowboys teams been popular and fan favorites, the Cowboys quarterbacks have also received more than their fair share of attention as well. Let's take a look at the Dallas Cowboys quarterbacks through the years.
The 1960s
The franchise was born in 1960 as an NFL expansion team and at the starting quarterback position was veteran quarterback Eddie LeBaron. After a few years, backup quarterback "Dandy" Don Meredith emerged to become the regular starter. He was popular with the fans and would stay at the helm of the team until a strong armed youngster was able to get his chance at the end of the decade.
The 1970s
All through the 1970s, Roger Staubach was the face of the Dallas Cowboys and was a key reason the team became successful on the field. Staubach had a reputation as a good person of high quality to go along with his tremendous athletic ability. It was a sad day following the 1979 season when "Roger The Dodger" announced his retirement and the team turned its quarterbacking duties over to of all people... a punter.
The 1980s
Danny White had been the backup quarterback to Staubach for a number of years and during that time also served as the team's punter. This made the Cowboys a dangerous team when he emerged as the starter in 1981 because when it was fourth down, no one was ever sure if they were going to go for it or actually punt the ball. In the mid 1980s a quarterback controversy developed in Dallas when young Gary Hogeboom joined the team. This controversy didn't last long as Hogeboom eventually moved on to the Colts and the Cowboys drafted a new young quarterback who would get a shot at starting, Steve Pelleur. The end of the decade saw what some believe to be the unceremonious dumping of the legendary Tom Landry and the hiring of the brash Jimmy Johnson. Many other changes came to the team and a new starting quarterback was just one of them as rookie Troy Aikman would helm the squad to a 1-15 record in 1989.
The 1990s
Aikman would eventually lead a team featuring other star players including running back Emmitt Smith and wide receiver Michael Irvin to win three Super Bowl victories in four years. Many football experts have called this mid 1990s Dallas Cowboys teams one of the best teams in history. Aikman would remain at the helm through the rest of the decade and though they didn't return to the big game, they were always considered a team that others had to worry about.
The 2000s
Following one season in the new decade, Troy Aikman would call it a career too and fade into the memories of the past. For the first time in team history, there wasn't a clean transition when it came to the Cowboys starting quarterback after Troy Aikman's retirement. The Cowboys tried Quincy Carter, Anthony Wright, Ryan Leaf, Clint Stoerner, Chad Hutchinson, Vinny Testaverde, Drew Henson, and Drew Bledsoe at starting quarterbacks from 2001 through 2006 before finding Tony Romo who would be their next quarterback to start consistently.
Because the Dallas Cowboys are one of the most popular teams in the history of the NFL, the starting quarterback for the team has also consistently been one of the more popular players. Playing quarterback for the Cowboys is similar to playing shortstop for the New York Yankees or center for the Los Angeles Lakers, most people know exactly who the person playing that position is even if they aren't a big sports fan themselves. Watching the evolution of the quarterbacks of the Dallas Cowboys will continue to fascinating as the years go by, without a doubt there will be more great ones to come.
The Dallas Cowboys Quarterbacks Through the YearsToo often I see leaders who either don't communicate; over communicate; communicate inappropriately through outbursts, anger, or blaming; or don't communicate clearly.
Communicating effectively through strong interpersonal communication is the most critical skill a leader can possess when working with others and it continues to be of great importance to meet the demands of employee retention and in the building of trust and confidence in an individual's and organization's leadership.
Many leaders miss the mark when it comes to connecting with their followers due to a lack of interest in others ideas and opinions, out dated management styles, and the inability to work with others. The ability to listen, read body language, ask questions, provide feedback and generate effective two-way communication builds trust & can also prevent performance problems/challenges down the road. Great leaders consistently strive to strengthen their interpersonal communication competencies by building and maintaining open, supportive, and collaborative relationships with others in the organization.
So what are Interpersonal Communication Skills?
Interpersonal communication is the process of developing a unique relationship with the other person by interacting and simultaneously sharing influence. It involves using communication skills effectively. As well as using skills such as active listening and tone of voice, they include delegation and leadership. It is how well you communicate with someone.
Having good interpersonal communication skill is a combination of being able to say what you mean clearly and concisely, and being able to take on board opinions of others and adapt what you say accordingly, as well as making them feel they can speak freely. To do that, you've got to be aware of your own role in the conversation and be able to manage your own attitudes and emotions (emotional intelligence). People with good interpersonal skills can generally control the feelings that emerge in difficult situations and respond appropriately, instead of being overwhelmed by emotion, and therefore the number of conflicts is reduced.
Working to strengthen your interpersonal communication skills will enhance your ability as a leader to articulate the vision of your organization. It will ultimately strengthen and add value to the individual, team and organization at all levels.
Start enhancing your Interpersonal Communication Skills today.
Leadership Through Effective Interpersonal Communication SkillsThe greater the love you feel for someone or the greater the emotional investment in a given situation, the greater the sense of loss you feel when death, transition or tragedy occurs. The depth of grief you experience is directly proportional to the depth of love experienced, invested or needed. Grieving is actually an aspect of love, and healthy grieving is an act of love and remembering love.
The reason that anger, shock and denial interrupt and in some cases stop the grief process is because they take you away from love. That is what they are designed to do as protective mechanisms.
Here's the real clincher about love and the grief process-remembering, writing about and talking about love takes you directly into the pain. As this happens however, all of the unconscious defense mechanisms designed to protect you from pain are activated. This is where the anger, shock and denial come in. The instinctual reaction of avoiding pain is natural. If you allow this to dominate however, you will never complete a grieving process. We must be conscious of our instincts, and act according to our wisdom.
Ultimately it is only a focus on love that gives you the strength and depth of emotion necessary for moving into your pain, releasing your sorrow and completing the grief process.
Here are some ideas and skills you can use to facilitate your own grief process:
-Understand that grief comes in waves. When the initial shock wears off, the first wave might feel overwhelming. Fortunately, each wave of grief eventually subsides, just as waves in the ocean do. You can therefore comfort yourself during each wave of sorrow with the awareness that "this too shall pass". The better you respond to the waves of grief, the more quickly they pass and the sooner you will complete your grieving process.
-The grief process lasts from a few months to several years, depending on the type of loss experienced. That means the waves will continue to come and go for that period of time. Fight them and they will just get stronger. Learn to go with them and move through them effectively, and they will subside more quickly.
-Some crying can be and even needs to be done alone, whereas aspects of the grief process require that you do at least part of your crying in the presence of trusted loved ones.
-You absolutely must know how to cry. Crying can actually be seen as a skill, in that some people know how to do it, some don't, and it can be taught. Here are some exercises to help you cry if you have difficulty doing so:
--Go into a dark or dimly lit room, where you will not be interrupted. Curl up on a bed or on the floor in a pile of pillows. Let your emotions and the sensations in your body be your guide, they will tell you what to do if you have the sensitivity to listen.
--Make a vocal sound that matches with the feelings of sorrow and pain in your stomach, heart and throat. This may come out as a wail, a whimper, a howl or a roar. It is essential that you let these sounds out, as they give you emotional release that otherwise is just not possible.
--Deep, long sobbing is the key to powerful emotional release. That's what you're going for in the effort to cry. Quietly leaking a few tears is better than nothing, but it won't get to the heart of the matter. When you experience deep loss your body needs to sob, deep and long until you feel a release and a sense of relief. You may need to do this several times during the grieving process. Sobbing occurs as a kind of rapid coughing or convulsing rhythm in your belly, so the belly must be relaxed for this to happen. Relaxing your stomach and breathing deeply can often facilitate crying.
--Sometimes there is a powerful layer of anger or even rage surrounding sorrow. Because of this, anger release work may sometimes be necessary to allow crying to start. I have seen literally hundreds of clients go into crying after powerful anger release. The verbal statements that might go with anger release for grieving might be "No, no, no..." or "Why did you leave me?"
--Grieving rituals are extremely important for those of us in cultures and societies that do not have them. Here are some ideas of rituals and ceremonies that may be useful to you, beyond the funeral process that most families utilize:
--Your own private grieving ceremony will allow you to process your feelings and move through your waves of grief on your own schedule, requiring nothing of
others. Following are some recommendations:
1. Go into a private space where you will not be interrupted.
2. Put on some appropriate music that will remind you of the person or that will connect with the feelings you want to move through.
3. Light candles to set a sacred space, and to create a quiet and reverent mood.
4. Take out photographs, videotapes, audiotapes, cards, letters and memorabilia that contain or remind you of your lost loved one or of the situation you are grieving. Place these around you on the floor or on a table in front of you.
5. Talk out loud to the departed, or to anyone associated with your loss. You can also write letters (that you may or may not send to anyone still alive) expressing all of your feelings.
6. Stay in this space until you feel some sense of release or resolution. Understand that you may need to do this several times during your grief process, or in some cases one such ritual will be sufficient.
7. Ceremonies and rituals that involve family and loved ones also affected can be very healing. Some examples include:
--Releasing balloons in a park or floating a candle down a stream or river.
--Storytelling ceremonies, in which you and your group get together to swap memories of the departed. Be aware that if these stories focus on anger, guilt or denial they can do more harm than good. While it is necessary to move through these aspects of grief, the purpose of such a gathering is to focus on love, release, forgiveness, healing and letting go.
--Memorial services that include combinations of the above elements, for the purpose of honoring the departed and the love felt by those left behind.
The approach outlined here can be applied to many kinds of losses. Here is a list of losses which necessitate a period of grieving:
-Death
-Divorce
-Loss of innocence through physical or sexual abuse
-Loss of love through abandonment or rejection
-Loss of childhood through being required to take on too much responsibility too soon in life
-Loss of health through illness, injury or aging
-Loss of job
-Loss of money through investment downturns and/or changes in the economy
-Loss due to moving away from a home that you loved
-Loss of community because of a geographical move
You may be able to think of other types of losses that you or others have suffered. The important point to keep in mind is that you do not have to suffer from these losses for the rest of your life. You can take charge by moving through your own grief to a point of peace and resolution, becoming wiser and stronger in the process.
Healthy Grieving Techniques - How to Move Through the Grief Process to ResolutionOne of the main points that William Bridges makes in his book "The Way of Transition" is that transition is not the same as change. Change is what happens to you. Transition is what you experience. And transition involves loss and letting go - typically of old familiar routines and ways of doing things, social identity, role identity, status, money and relationships.
"To cross over the line into the transition, you need to ask yourself what inner relinquishments you'll need to make because of the change. What needs will you have to find other ways to get met? Because of your change, what parts of yourself are now out of date?"
Bridges sees the transition passing through 3 distinct phases:
(1) Ending, Losing, Letting Go - helping people come to terms with what they have lost and helping them prepare to move on
(2) The Neutral Zone - helping people through the readjustment and realignments - helping them find the path to follow
(3) The New Beginning - helping people develop the new identity, and their new role in the new order and energising them to new growth
Personally I take the view that at root, change management is about process and people. But even process is just about people doing stuff... so ultimately it's all about people - and processes that work for people.
Any organisational initiative that creates change - or has a significant change element to it - has a 70% chance of not achieving what was originally envisaged. In my experience, of the 3 main reasons for failure, the underlying cause is nearly always to do with senior management's failure to take full account of the impact of the changes on those people who are most affected by them i.e. the absence of good strategies for managing change.
Many thought leaders in the world of change management and change leadership are now speaking vociferously about the importance of the emotional dimension of leadership and the need to address the human dimension of change. For example:
- The Kubler Ross grief-cycle otherwise known as the "change roller coaster" which maps the emotional stages that people pass through in their transition through change.
- Daniel Goleman and others have stressed the importance of the leader's ability to articulate a message that resonates with their followers' emotional reality and their sense of purpose, and thus motivate them to move in a specific direction.
- John Kotter says that the single biggest challenge facing leadership in a change process is just getting people to change their behaviour - and that happens... "When they are motivated to do so, and that happens when you speak to their feelings."
- Jon Katzenbach highlights the value of personalising the workplace and making and demonstrating a personal commitment by getting involved and truly understanding what your staff is doing on a daily basis.
- Andy Pearson emphasises how people will respond to their leaders efforts to connect with their emotional side: "Great leaders find a balance between getting results and how they get them."
So to summarise, in Bridges' own words:
"A change can work only if the people affected by it can get through the transition it causes successfully."
In my view, and at a practical level, of all the methodologies of how to manage change and how to address the accompanying transition, the programme management based approach is most likely to ensure that you avoid the 70% failure rate, and this is because:
(1) It is holistic and takes a wider perspective.
(2) It focuses you on addressing issues and aspects that otherwise get overlooked.
(3) It addresses the people impacts and issues arising as a direct and indirect result of your change initiative.
Oftentimes leaders are confronted with situations that they are ill-equipped to address - like major changes within the organization. For inexperienced managers, this may be a time to consider executive coaching.
What is Executive Coaching?
First, let's clarify what it is not. Executive coaching is not an end in itself. In spite of its apparently robust potential, the very act of taking on a coach will not automatically advance you or your managers' careers. The aim of coaching is to develop leaders in the context of their current jobs, without removing them from their day-to-day activities. Executive coaches confidentially help leaders unravel sensitive and difficult challenges, working with them to develop new and lasting ways to attack old problems. When used as a part of a larger initiative, such as a leadership development program, coaching can yield exceptional results!
Why is Executive Coaching Vital to Organizational Success?
Coaching is vital to removing roadblocks to the most effective performance and success of the individual. In the case of a business owner, executive or professional, it could literally mean the difference between success and failure of the entire organization. When a leader is able to fine-tune his strategic thinking, communication and decision-making, he is able to operate to his fullest executive potential and positively affect the people around him.
Who Needs Executive Coaching?
Every aspiring business professional can benefit from executive coaching, but it is especially useful for individuals who wish to:
* Overcome leadership shortcomings and fulfill their potential
* Move to higher positions, taking on greater responsibility
* Reduce turnover, cultivate teamwork and inspire improved employee performance
* Balance work, family and personal time in order to excel in all areas
How to Choose an Executive Coach
Choosing a coach is like finding the right person to fill a key position in your organization. You can do initial screening via phone or email. Here are some questions you might ask:
* What coach training have you received?
* What companies have you worked with?
* How will you assess my current skills?
* How will you measure improvement?
Finding the right executive coach to assist you through major organizational or personal changes can help ensure a smoother transition and more productive workplace.
Executive Coaching - Inexperienced Managers Leading Through Major Change?